Violence is personal, it is sudden and permanent. After the movie hero “solves” the problem with a gun, real-life wounds never completely heal.
My niece was held at gunpoint in New York this year. That violence did not turn lethal, but it has here. William Gardner should not have had a gun when he confronted Leslie Pinkston. Some would say he could not have been reasonably prevented from getting one. But it was the idea of “solving” his problem with a gun — that idea is our problem.
Our local tragedy is hard to talk about; domestic violence is complicated. I’m grateful that Debra DeAngelo and others have stepped forward to offer a continuing conversation about domestic violence.
A gun never was going to solve the problem between Leslie and William. There is and always would be a daughter to raise, a family to heal, law enforcement to reflect and do better, and us — a community that needs to participate in creating a less violent world instead of quietly accepting the “inevitable.”
On Saturday, in part to quietly remember the anniversary of the tragic shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, the Yolo Brady Campaign will be present at the Davis Farmers Market to provide a place for people to make quiet reflection, take quiet action and become part of the voice for a less violent world.