Tuesday, March 3, 2015
YOLO COUNTY NEWS
99 CENTS

Here’s what you need for a perfect wedding

MarionFranckW

By
From page A7 | July 27, 2014 |

Every wedding has to go wrong in order to go right.

This is something I learned late — during my own wedding — when my husband stopped speaking, put his head in his hand, and stared at the ground.

He had forgotten his best man’s name.

He was in the process of introducing him as “my longtime roommate and good friend,” but then his lips opened and the name didn’t come. He paused. Still no name. The guests fell silent. Then everyone, including my husband, started to laugh.

The name came back to Bob and our wedding came alive.

The best weddings I’ve been to have all had something like this: an unscripted moment that makes people laugh when they didn’t expect to, or cry when they didn’t expect to, and everyone feels closer and warmer and more alive. I wanted something to go wrong in my son’s wedding last month; not too wrong, of course, but just a little.

————

The night before the wedding finds me lying in bed, fretting that this won’t happen. Put simply, my son and his bride have planned so carefully that it looks like nothing can go wrong. Although one possible problem emerged during rehearsal (the youngest of the four child participants got fussy), we know that his role can be easily omitted at the last moment.

I go to sleep worrying that nothing will go wrong.

Then it is the afternoon of the wedding and all is ready. The location is a lovely old converted mansion in Minneapolis. The ceremony will be outside, the dinner and party indoors.

For days, Minneapolis weather has been cooperating. Every time rain showed up in the forecast, it vanished before arriving or went somewhere else.

On the day of the wedding, the sky looks unsettled, as it did for much of the week. This time, it grows darker. Half an hour before the guests arrive, those of us who are already dressed and on site begin pulling out our phones and studying them.

“Looks good,” says one person, smiling. “My ap says no rain till midnight.”

“Well, I don’t know,” says another, with strain on his face. “What does 50-percent chance mean around here?”

“My program predicts a downpour,” says a third, shaking his head and frowning.

Half an hour before the ceremony, the third speaker gets it right. The skies open. The chairs that have been set out for the guests are thoroughly doused.

Moments later, however, the sun is peeking out again. The mansion staff members run out and dry the chairs, wringing out thick towels as they move from one chair to the next.

Then the guests start to arrive, and they sit in the newly dry chairs and check their phones, too. We, the family members, line up just outside the door of the mansion for the procession, guided by a staff member named Amy who finally says, “Let’s go!”

At that moment, the fire alarm sounds in the building.

It’s that horrible screeching sound we’re all familiar with. Amy turns back to the staff members who are looking at her from the doorway with question marks on their faces. “Close the door,” she says. “We’re marching.”

So we march, starting with Great-Grandma on my husband’s arm and ending with the bride, looking gorgeous, accompanied down the aisle by her parents. In the traditional way, everyone assembles in front with the officiant, my son-in-law Casey, in the center. He faces the crowd, looking in the direction of oncoming weather.

Perhaps he sees what is coming a moment before we do.

It begins with a few light drops, leading people to shift in their seats and open umbrellas. Then the clouds get darker and the rain drops grow big. The wind picks up. Casey opens his hand to feel the rain, pauses, does it again. Suddenly, he’s motioning us toward the building. “We’re moving inside,” he announces.

Everyone rushes in and assembles, standing, in the room that was supposed to be used for the social hour. The guests are slightly damp, but not to the point of water dripping on the floor.

The bride and groom take the front position, framed by a lovely wooden window. Soft lighting gives the room a warm glow. Everyone takes a collective sigh that means, “We’re OK now. This is going to be good.”

But as we turn forward, ready for the ceremony to begin, bright red lights begin to flash outside.

Fire trucks.

Soon four fully-geared firemen stomp into the building and begin striding through, checking for fire.

We wait.

————

They leave.

By this time, of course, the ceremony plan has been bruised and bumped in so many ways I can’t count them.

This might have upset the groom and traumatized the bride, but when I look at them I don’t see that at all. They’re grinning. The wedding guests are standing close together, pointing, talking, and smiling, too. I sit in front in one of the few chairs, my heart swelling with happiness.

As the ceremony begins, I look back at the guests one more time.

Simply by getting rained on, standing up and moving inside, and then being jostled by a posse of firemen, a bunch of individual wedding guests have become a community. The wedding has its own unique feel: cozy, intimate, with darkened skies and bright red lights.

Something has gone wrong and it’s wonderful.

— Marion Franck lives in Davis with her family. Reach her at [email protected]

Comments

comments

.

News

Nominees sought for city’s human rights awards

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A1

 
Pedal power: It’s a different kind of March Madness

By Felicia Alvarez | From Page: A1 | Gallery

STEM-Tastic Sunday highlights summer opportunities

By Chloe Lessard | From Page: A1 | Gallery

 
County: Baby Justice was on Social Services’ radar

By Lauren Keene | From Page: A1 | Gallery

Budget standoff leaves California college hopefuls in limbo

By The Associated Press | From Page: A1

 
State to supply just 20 percent of water

By The Associated Press | From Page: A2

Bob Dunning: Rampant crime on the streets of Davis

By Bob Dunning | From Page: A2, 1 Comment | Gallery

 
For the record

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A2

Appeals court upholds protection for threatened seabird

By The Associated Press | From Page: A2

 
House to vote on Homeland bill without conditions

By The Associated Press | From Page: A2

 
Pets of the week

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A3 | Gallery

‘Pearls Before Swine’ joins daily comics lineup

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

 
Winter market wraps up Wednesday

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

Public broadband, on ‘Davisville’

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

 
Alcoholic liver disease strikes Hispanics years earlier

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

Embroiderers will discuss needlework tools

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

 
Tuleyome needs volunteers for work party

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4 | Gallery

Bingo games Sunday will benefit DHS Madrigals’ trip

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A5

 
Go all in for fun at Texas Hold ‘Em tournament

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A5

DCC Nursery School hosts open house

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A5

 
Join a fitness party at Zumba class

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A5

 
Logos Books hosts conversation groups, poetry readings

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A5

Get a taste of Middle Earth at library

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A5

 
Holmes’ talent showcased

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A5 | Gallery

Overeaters get support at meetings

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A6Comments are off for this post

 
Cycle de Mayo kicks off Bike Month

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A6

Klein’s book featured at Authors on the Move

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A6

 
City says it did not OK Ygrene mailers

By Dave Ryan | From Page: A6

 
Sure and begorrah!

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A6

.

Forum

The kids aren’t interested

By Creators Syndicate | From Page: B5

 
One more family insult

By Creators Syndicate | From Page: B5

Tom Meyer cartoon

By Debbie Davis | From Page: A8

 
Cannery CFD creates unequal taxation patchwork

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A8

Climate changes are inevitable

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A8

 
Act for our children’s future

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A8

UCD alums will want to stay

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A8

 
End the use of this word

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A8

Thanks for act of kindness

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A8

 
.

Sports

 
Lady Blue Devils in semis Tuesday night

By Enterprise staff | From Page: B1

Aggie men host two big ones this week

By Enterprise staff | From Page: B1

 
Dream run ends for Davis’ master wrestlers

By Evan Ream | From Page: B1 | Gallery

Devil boys net an easy tennis victory

By Enterprise staff | From Page: B1 | Gallery

 
In the Clubhouse: Summerhays Jr. talks about new post at El Macero CC

By Bruce Gallaudet | From Page: B1 | Gallery

Newly acquired Smith scores in Sharks’ victory

By The Associated Press | From Page: B3 | Gallery

 
Sports briefs: Aggie lacrosse team takes home opener

By Enterprise staff | From Page: B3

Blue Devil girls look for revenge in the pool

By Kellen Browning | From Page: B10 | Gallery

 
DHS boys aim to repeat as section swim champs

By Kellen Browning | From Page: B10

.

Features

Name Droppers: Dunn graduates from Marine Corps basic training

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A7 | Gallery

 
.

Arts

Thursday Live! features Keith Cary, Wyatt Hesemeyer

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A9

 
Songs of the Civil War to be performed by Anonymous 4

By Jeff Hudson | From Page: A9 | Gallery

 
Davis Chorale starts year with demanding music

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A9

.

Business

.

Obituaries

Dieter W. Gruenwedel

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

 
Otto Vasak

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

.

Comics

Comics: Tuesday, March 3, 2015 (set 1)

By Creator | From Page: B5

 
Comics: Tuesday, March 3, 2015 (set 2)

By Creator | From Page: B7