Friday, October 31, 2014
YOLO COUNTY NEWS
99 CENTS

Insisting on a church wedding

AnniesMailbox

By
From page B6 | June 24, 2014 |

Dear Annie: I have several cousins who are celebrating weddings and baby showers this summer. Several of my aunts will not attend any of these events if they are not held in a Catholic Church. They say it is against their “rules.” One aunt sent a reply saying she would not attend the outdoor wedding because it was not being held in a church. Another aunt replied to a wedding shower invitation that she would not attend it at a Lutheran church hall because it was not her religion.

I find these replies to be quite rude and judgmental. Should something be said? Should we ignore it? Should future invitations not be sent?

 Wisconsin

Dear Wisconsin: Catholic weddings are supposed to take place in a church, officiated by a priest. If your aunt will not attend any wedding that is not sanctioned by the church (generally meaning an interfaith marriage), please respect that. And while that is not a problem with wedding showers, there are those who will not enter the place of worship of a different religion. That, too, is their choice. These religious restrictions don’t leave a great deal of room for compromise.

The aunts were rude in explaining (which apparently felt like lecturing) the reasons they would not attend. Simply saying, “Sorry I cannot be there,” would have been simpler and kinder. But your choice is to invite those with whom you wish to celebrate, and theirs is whether or not to come. Please say nothing more about it.

Dear Annie: I am writing to let you know one of your columns has saved at least one life.

My friend told me she read a letter from “L.,” who is a cancer survivor. The writer discussed the importance of having a colonoscopy and listed all the symptoms of colon cancer. When she finished reading it, my friend told her son, “I have cancer,” and it turned out, she did.

The doctor found Stage II colon cancer, for which she is now being treated, and the doctors think she will make a full recovery. I think that letter should run every week.

 Anonymous

Dear Anonymous: While we cannot repeat the same letter every week, we think it is a public service to reprint the symptoms of colon cancer. If you notice any of the following, please see your doctor immediately and schedule a colonoscopy:

1. Blood in the stool or rectal bleeding when you have a bowel movement.

2. Stomach aches, pains and cramps that continue with no apparent cause.

3. Difficulty eating or swallowing.

4. Losing weight without cause.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Overwhelmed in Smalltown, USA,” whose transgendered sister is invited to the brother’s wedding, and the family won’t attend.

Seven years ago, my son moved out of state for a job. Two years later, he emailed that he had made the decision to transgender to a female. I was absolutely devastated. But after a few months, I realized that I had to accept my “daughter” if I wanted to have a relationship with her. The first time I visited, my knees were shaking, and my heart was pounding. She was respectful of my feelings and dressed in her male clothing so as not to shock me. She wanted us to meet her transgendered friends, and even though I was scared, they turned out to be the nicest people.

Due to other medical issues, my sweet, beautiful daughter recently died. Her friends drove 800 miles to support me. My only memories of her female self are in the stories her friends tell. I miss my sweet angel every moment of every day.

 Grieving Mom of a Beautiful Daughter

Dear Mom: Our condolences on your terrible loss. Thank you for expressing what is most important: This is still your child.

To all our Muslim readers: Happy Eid

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. To find out more about Annie’s Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

Creators Syndicate Inc.

Comments

comments

Creators Syndicate

.

News

 
State superintendent makes campaign stop in Davis

By Jeff Hudson | From Page: A1 | Gallery

 
Indians celebrate Diwali with gala on Sunday

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A3

Rairdan dinged for late report

By Jeff Hudson | From Page: A3

 
Veterans will tailgate at ‘Salute to Heroes’ game

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A3

Wolk hailed for environmental votes

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A3

 
Yamada honored for leadership on aging issues

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A3

Embroidery group meets at mall

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A3

 
Bones for Life classes offered

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

Bet Haverim will hear Israel update

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

 
Local artisans featured at holiday craft fair

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

Got bikes? Donate ‘em!

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

 
Kids walk for friends at Birch Lane

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

Explorit: Creep out with some spooky science

By Lisa Justice | From Page: A4

 
Shambhala offers Tai Chi class

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

Enjoy wine, music and art at Sunday fundraiser for DHS choir

By Anne Ternus-Bellamy | From Page: A9

 
.

Forum

New-school cheating on the smartphone

By Creators Syndicate | From Page: B5

 
My choices on Tuesday

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
Garamendi, Dodd get my votes

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

Tom Meyer cartoon

By Debbie Davis | From Page: A10

 
High hopes for Sunder

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

Public service is in her heart

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
A calm, thoughtful voice

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

Sunder is a perfect fit

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
Best predictor is past behavior

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

Vote for students, with Tuck

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
.

Sports

DHS plays undefeated Pacers Friday night

By Enterprise staff | From Page: B1

 
Blue Devil girls net an easy win at Grant

By Enterprise staff | From Page: B1 | Gallery

Aggie offense A-OK; now what about defense?

By Bruce Gallaudet | From Page: B1 | Gallery

 
In Davis, rugby is as American as apple pie

By Bruce Gallaudet | From Page: B1

 
 
Niemi’s 43 saves aren’t enough in loss to Wild

By The Associated Press | From Page: B8 | Gallery

.

Features

.

Arts

 
Calling all artists for upcoming show

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A11

‘Birdman': A dark comedy that soars

By Derrick Bang | From Page: A11

 
DHS Madrigals host singing workshop

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A12

 
Marcia Ball to play at The Palms

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A12 | Gallery

 
.

Business

Big, capable luxury defines Yukon

By Ann M. Job | From Page: A5 | Gallery

 
.

Obituaries

Joseph Francis Gray

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

 
.

Comics

Comics: Friday, October 31, 2014

By Creator | From Page: B6

 
.

Real Estate Review

Featured Listing

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER1

Professional Services Directory

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER2

Lyon Real Estate

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER3

RE/Max Gold

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER4

Kim Eichorn

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER5

Susan von Geldern

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER6

Team Traverso

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER6

Yolo FCU

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER6

Juan Ramirez

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER6

Tracy Harris

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER7

Susan von Geldern

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER7

Wells Fargo Home Mortgage

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER8

Julie Leonard

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER8

Joe Kaplan

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER9

Melrina A Maggiora

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER9

Coldwell Banker

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER10

Leslie Blevins

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER12

Julie Partain

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER12

Robin Garland

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER13

Jamie Madison

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER13

Diane Lardelli

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER13

Karen Waggoner

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER14

Jamie Madison & Associates

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER14

Lisa Haass

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER14

Ciana Wallace

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER15

Travis Credit Union

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER16

Malek Baroody

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER17

Marcelo Campos

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER18

F1rst Street Real Estate

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: RER20