Friday, November 28, 2014
YOLO COUNTY NEWS
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This doesn’t ring true

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From page B5 | May 06, 2014 |

Dear Annie: My 32-year-old son is currently traveling overseas on business. He is staying at a hotel, but he visited my sister’s house to see his aunt and his grandma, who live near his place of business. My niece and her husband also came by to see my son. My son spent a few hours napping in my niece’s old bedroom and then left for the hotel.

Two days later, my son got a call at 2 a.m. from his aunt asking whether he had found a ring in his bag, because her daughter said she left her ring on the makeup table in her old room. Mind you, she didn’t notice it was missing for two days. And while my son was in her room, he left his bag in the living room.

So I guess my sister is accusing my son of stealing the ring. My son denied taking the ring and was very upset and angry. He is still overseas, and I don’t want to discuss this with him now and disturb his business appointments. My son has never had problems stealing as far as we know. He lives in L.A. and is financially secure.

What is the best approach to this situation? Should I just pay the value of the ring to my sister? Should we wait until my son comes back and ask what happened?

— Upset Mom in USA

Dear Mom: Yes, please wait until your son comes back. You don’t seem 100-percent certain that he didn’t take the ring. And of course, it’s equally possible that your niece put the ring somewhere else, doesn’t recall doing so and believes your son took it. Things are misplaced all the time, and others are often blamed. Tell your sister you will speak to your son as soon as he returns and work it out. If you believe he is responsible for the ring, ask how much it would cost to replace it. If you think your son is innocent, you could offer to split the cost for the sake of family harmony. The price of the ring is less important than the relationship with your sister.

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Dear Annie: I was recently in the emergency room and then admitted to the critical care unit for three days in danger of bleeding out. I remained in the hospital for an additional three days.

What hurts more than the illness is that not a single person from my family, including my parents and eight siblings, called or visited me. The hospital is close to them, and part of the time I was there, it was a weekend, and they weren’t working.

Was I expecting too much? Wouldn’t any decent person call to express concern for a hospitalized family member? It certainly changes how I feel about them.

— Sick at Heart

Dear Sick: Of course your family members should have expressed their concern. But did they know? Sometimes, we assume people are aware that we are sick or hospitalized, but they don’t find out until you’ve been home for a week. Please call your parents and siblings. Ask why they seemed so indifferent to your situation. Let them know how much it hurt you. We hope things can be mended.

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Dear Annie: Your advice to “A Wife” regarding job applications was spot on, especially when you said, “Be sure to include a cover letter.”

When I owned my own business, I would not consider an applicant’s resume without a cover letter. Only once did I disregard this rule and hired a person whose qualifications were exactly what I was looking for. She quit a month later, saying she was bored. I should have known, because she was not motivated enough to write a cover letter in the first place. A few years later, she contacted me and asked for her job back. I declined.

— Paco from Albany, N.Y.

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Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. To find out more about Annie’s Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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