Friday, October 24, 2014
YOLO COUNTY NEWS
99 CENTS

Why is he so mad about that?

AnniesMailbox

By
From page B5 | December 24, 2013 |

Dear Annie: I’m a 26-year-old female and have been engaged to a wonderful man for the past year. We had plans to marry after he graduates in June with his master’s degree.

The problem started when on several occasions my girlfriends and I went out to the bars and danced until the wee hours. During one of those nights, I had a few too many drinks and ended up kissing one of the guys I was dancing with. My fiance found out about it from a mutual friend, and now he wants to break off our engagement. He feels this was cheating and that I have betrayed his trust.

Is this cheating, or is he being unreasonable?

— Heartbroken

Dear Heartbroken: While it may not be as serious as sleeping with another guy, that kiss was still a betrayal. And if you enjoy going out to bars in order to dance with other guys and drink so much that you cannot control your behavior, it doesn’t sound as if you are ready to get married. Imagine how you would feel if your fiance behaved this way.

You owe him a sincere apology and a promise to curtail your drinking. We hope he is willing to give you another chance. But if you cannot understand or admit that your behavior was inappropriate, please let him find someone else who shares his values.

————

Dear Annie: I am a woman in my 60s and have been married to my second husband for more than a year. We are both widowed. I have one married daughter, and my husband has two sons, one of whom is married.

Our marriage is wonderful. The problem is my husband’s 28-year-old daughter-in-law. She is overweight, and her skin sags everywhere. You can see her backside, and her pants are very low in the front, so her stomach hangs over. You can tell her to pull up her pants, but she claims she is “in style.”

She apparently doesn’t dress like this in front of her parents. What should be done?

— Patty in Peoria

Dear Patty: By you? Nothing. She is not your child and apparently is disinclined to listen to your opinion about her appearance. If you invite her to a place with a dress code, inform her what that is. But if you criticize the way she dresses, she could start avoiding you, creating all sorts of problems between your husband and his son. Please tolerate what you can.

————

Dear Annie: I feel moved to respond to the letter from “Betrayed,” whose husband refuses to have sex but watches plenty of porn. There are always two sides to every story.

My wife and I have been married for 16 years. While we were dating, she was sexually aggressive, experimental, provocative and playful. Now the story is different. Of course, with the children around, sex requires planning. But when I began going to bed early, she started going to bed late. When I went to bed late, as instructed, she went to bed early and “wasn’t in the mood.”

Sessions with three different psychologists ended the same way. In each case, she said, “I don’t want to go back. I am being picked on.” I’ve tried asking what I can do differently to make her happy, but she has no suggestions. Now she finds fault with everything I do.

Two years ago, I developed erectile dysfunction. The prescription drugs work fine, but her lack of interest means the last bottle of Viagra remains untouched. Pornography is evil and disgusting and is certainly no answer. But I have no other answers. Life is complex, and sometimes you limp along as best you can.

— T.

————

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. To find out more about Annie’s Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

— Creators Syndicate Inc.

Comments

comments

Special to The Enterprise

.

News

A-Z: Downtown Davis is the place to celebrate

By Kimberly Yarris | From Page: C1

 
Courageous Thompson tapped for cycling shrine

By Bruce Gallaudet | From Page: A1 | Gallery

 
UC researchers: How low-water can our landscapes go?

By Katie F. Hetrick | From Page: A1 | Gallery

Testimony begins in Winters murder trial

By Lauren Keene | From Page: A1 | Gallery

 
Hong Kong protesters to vote on staying in streets

By The Associated Press | From Page: A2

 
Cloud business lifts Microsoft’s quarterly results

By The Associated Press | From Page: A2

 
Scientists work to save endangered desert mammal

By Kat Kerlin | From Page: A3 | Gallery

Host families needed for students and teachers from Mexico

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A3

 
Halloween Dance set Friday for teens

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A3

Yoga and chanting workshop planned

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A3

 
Downtown menu: coffee, boba tea, dessert

By Wendy Weitzel | From Page: C3

Can you give them a home?

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A3 | Gallery

 
Video highlights Props. 1 and 2

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

‘Homeopathy at Home’ program planned

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

 
Celebrate origami at Davis library

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

Garden sale and open house features water-wise demos

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: C4

 
Meet Poppenga at dog park Sunday

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

Day of the Dead folk art class set

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

 
Flea Market planned Sunday

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

Enjoy A Taste of Capay at historic ranch

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

 
Red-hot tunes set at Blues Harvest

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

Learn how to fill a cornucopia with flowers

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A4

 
Bay Bridge art project needs $4 million to keep shining

By San Francisco Chronicle | From Page: A5 | Gallery

Weir honored, a year early

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A5

 
Explorit: Poison-proof your home with free lecture

By Lisa Justice | From Page: A6

For a good cause

By Fred Gladdis | From Page: A6

 
Americans, internationals make connections

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A6

Sutter auxiliary seeks volunteers

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A7

 
School board hopefuls discuss homework policy

By Jeff Hudson | From Page: A7

Walkers welcome to join Sierra Club outings

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A9

 
Project Linus seeks donations

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A9

.

Forum

The magic is long gone

By Creators Syndicate | From Page: B5

 
Experience nature’s treasures

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
Subs have other concerns

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

Tom Meyer cartoon

By Debbie Davis | From Page: A10

 
What’s next with Ebola?

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

More theories on the abstention

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
Rights beget responsibilities

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

Water returns to its source

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
A solution to the drought

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A10

.

Sports

Aggies expect a bonny meeting in Sacramento

By Bruce Gallaudet | From Page: B1

 
DHS footballers take on Pleasant Grove

By Enterprise staff | From Page: B1

Bye No. 2 comes at perfect time for nicked-up UCD

By Bruce Gallaudet | From Page: B1 | Gallery

 
Shhh. Are Aggie women BWC’s best-kept secret?

By Bruce Gallaudet | From Page: B1

Bump, set, playoffs: Blue Devil girls clinch spot in postseason

By Thomas Oide | From Page: B1 | Gallery

 
UCD roundup: Preseason awards roll in for Aggie hoopster Hawkins

By Enterprise staff | From Page: B2 | Gallery

 
Sharks suffer from road woes

By The Associated Press | From Page: B12

.

Features

.

Arts

DMTC plans ‘My Fair Lady’

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A11

 
Czech Philharmonic Orchestra to perform

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A11

Calling all artists for upcoming show

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A11

 
‘St. Vincent:’ Quite a character

By Derrick Bang | From Page: A11 | Gallery

Rumpledethumps to play at Village Homes Performers’ Circle

By Enterprise staff | From Page: A11 | Gallery

 
.

Business

 
Car Care: Five things to ask yourself when shopping for a new vehicle

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: B7

.

Obituaries

Lewis Melvin Dudman

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

 
Ann Foley Scheuring

By Special to The Enterprise | From Page: A4

.

Comics

Comics: Friday, October 24, 2014

By Creator | From Page: B3