Friday, April 24, 2015

It’s a depressing beat

Dear Annie: My husband died 11 years ago. Our son, “Marcus,” was 6 at the time. His dad was in intensive care for two months, and because of his young age, our son was not allowed to see his father. Before he died, my husband asked his younger brother to keep his drum set until […]

Too many questions remain

Dear Annie: Last week, our son came home from high school and told us that a boy at his school had killed himself. The boy had been a friend of his since the fifth grade. The school had a moment of silence over the public address system, but never mentioned the boy’s name. Most of […]

They’ve lost that lovin’ feeling

Dear Annie: I am a 59-year-old woman. Two years ago, I met this guy, “Jake,” and had feelings for him from a distance. We finally got together one night at a club. We exchanged phone numbers and then talked for about two months. Jake invited me to his place, and we made love. For the […]

Spread the good word, people

Dear Annie: I am a small-business owner. It’s challenging, but I have wonderful customers who seem to like our service. So, I’d like to ask your readers a question: Is there a business establishment that you enjoy going to? A restaurant that is part of your life? A store where you always are treated well? […]

Hey, do you want that glaucoma fixed?

Dear Annie: For many years, I have heard about the dangers of secondhand smoke. I am a non-smoker, but was married to a smoker for 13 years and have asthma. Now that pot is being legalized in some states, including where I live, what are the dangers of secondhand pot smoke? I haven’t heard a […]

Ready for the parting glass

Dear Annie: I have been married to “Tom” for 30 years, and we’ve raised two successful children. Tom is a nice guy, but he is a binge drinker and has been all the years I have known him. I didn’t recognize this as alcoholism until 10 years ago. Tom has been in therapy ever since. […]

The new one puts her foot down

Dear Annie: Twelve years ago, my son moved his girlfriend into our home. “Lena” lived with us for four years, and we treated her like family. They broke up, and Lena moved out. She then married someone else and now has an adorable 6-year-old daughter. We have remained such good friends with her that my […]

Feeling like a sucker

Dear Annie: I have helped my wife’s daughter and family financially many times over the past 15 years. Eighteen months ago, I loaned them $600, and they promised they would pay me back. (My previous loans were gifts.) The daughter’s husband has a well-paying job, but he is slow to repay this loan. Three months […]

It’s a long way to go on a hunch

Dear Annie: How much can I ask my host about etiquette for her overseas wedding? I live in Canada. The bride is French. I met her when she was briefly living in my hometown. She went back to France two years ago, and now she’s getting married there. The wedding invitation was sent to my […]

Millenials: Ready to take over

Dear Annie: Young people are ready, willing and able to tackle the world’s most difficult challenges, and yet are vastly underrepresented as active citizens, decision-makers and problem solvers. We know that young people are uniquely suited to help solve problems if given the opportunity. 1. Fifty percent of the world’s population is under age 25. […]

Generosity could have its price

Dear Annie: I am a disabled single mother of two, and I work part time. We live in a modest mobile home that is becoming too difficult for me to maintain. The hard winter resulted in frequent frozen water pipes, no heat and high utility bills. My parents have offered to purchase a house for […]

Communication is the key

Dear Annie: Why is it that I know six women who are divorcing their husbands? Why are there so many middle-aged men newly divorced? Why does it take a divorce to wake guys up? I’m 47 and have been married to my husband for almost 25 years. He is a good dad. He can fix […]

Not exactly an open book

Dear Annie: About 10 years ago, I was working on a remodel project and discovered a hidden “treasure”: three dusty books stashed above some ductwork. Two were personal journals, and another was an art book with sexy photographs from the 1980s. I briefly glanced at the journals and noticed they dealt with some romantic breakups. […]

Was it only eight months ago?

Dear Annie: Eight months ago, I met the love of my life online. Everything started off great. “Jay” and I chatted every day. However, at one point, a past lover of his intervened and warned me about some of his “issues.” I became a little bit paranoid and asked Jay to explain his side of […]